How to Deal With Loneliness

Loneliness is a real thing.  Although we are more connected than ever via technology and social media, loneliness seems to be at an all-time high.  If you feel like it’s just you who is feeling lonely it’s not true!  Many of us get lonely at times, including myself.  It is a part of being human.  However, it is true that some deal with loneliness more than others.  Some daily.  So, whether you are visited with loneliness sporadically or feel like it’s a constant companion, let’s discuss some ways to combat loneliness.  I hope you find these helpful.

Become A Volunteer

Volunteering to help someone in need or someone less fortunate is a great way to lift your spirits when feeling lonely.  You get to see firsthand how your actions benefit someone in need which can boost serotonin, the brain chemical responsible for feelings of happiness and well-being. 

Regularly volunteering can give you a greater sense of purpose and decrease feelings of loneliness.  Even during this pandemic, there are still ways to volunteer while social distancing to make a difference in life.  Volunteering also connects you with people you never would have met otherwise and makes the opportunity to make a new friend.

Reach Out To Loved Ones 

“Family is forever.”  “There is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” 

Close friends and family are staples in your life you go to for support and empathy.  When feeling lonely, don’t forget to stay in touch.  Although in-person contact is currently restricted by the pandemic we’re all going through, you can reach out via phone call, text, Facetime, or the ever-popular zoom call.  Schedule a video call once a week for consistent support.  The connection you have with those you’re close too cannot be replaced and is especially prudent when loneliness is at your doorstep. 

Start A Gratitude Journal

Keeping a written record of all the things you have to be thankful for can do wonders for lifting loneliness.  Oftentimes we go through life and forget just how many blessings and good things have come our way.  Consistently writing them down and reviewing them when we feel lonely is an excellent way to regain a measure of joy. 

It’s all too easy to focus on the heartaches of life.  The events you have missed out on or not worked out as you hoped they would.  But actively tracking the good things in your life via a gratitude journal helps you keep perspective on what’s most important.  Heavy days will come, but there is always something to be grateful for.

I recommend keeping a small journal and pen on your nightstand.  Each night before bed, mentally review your day and jot down 3 things you are thankful for.  Look through your journal periodically on especially lonely days for a reminder of the good in your life.

Do More Of What Makes You Happy 

This is my personal favorite way to keep loneliness at bay.  Interacting with family and friends is a vital part of our lives, but sometimes when you feel lonely you just need some time alone.  Immersing yourself in a fulfilling hobby or activity is a great way to re-fill your cup and come out on the other side of feeling lonely.  The fuller your cup the less room there is for loneliness and the more you feel at peace. Golden Legacy Wellness fully believes in wellness and living a legacy you’d be proud of, learn more about how to cope with stress and anxiety if you need more support. 

Talk With A Counselor

Regardless of what some might think, there is nothing wrong with speaking to a licensed professional counselor.  Their job is to listen and help you work through feelings of loneliness, which oftentimes can lead to more serious issues down the road if not dealt with in the present.  Another benefit is counselors don’t know you personally, which means you can speak freely without the fear of judgment or biased opinions that may come from friends.